ISBN: 9789381626276    Publisher: Westland Year of publishing: 2011     Format:  Paperback No of Pages: 308        Language: English

It is not only the aggrieved partner that needs to learn how to recover from the shock and pain caused by an adulterous spouse. The perpetrator is equally a victim of the affair. It is a myth that only men have affai Whom are the ones they re having their affair with? Affairs are not the product of our times. Infidelity has informed our history, religious stories and culture since time immemorial. Modern technology and freer mingling of the sexes only slightly help. And sometimes that help backfires. As anyone whose secret text messages on his cellphone have been discovered by a suspicious partner. Such surprises and insightful observations abound in yet another robust book by renowned relationships counsellor Vijay Nagaswami, in the third of Westland s New Indian Marriage series. More than humour, more than his wit, Nagaswami s greatest quality is his refusal to point out the villain in any piece. We are all flawed individuals, he reminds us yet again, and sometimes make foolish choices in the heat or boredom of the moment. But hope is at hand. We CAN regret, forgive and learn to love again. And, most importantly, cast away our guilt and our recriminations.
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Vijay Nagaswami is a Chennai-based psychiatrist and has worked closely with relationships for over twentyfive yea Innumerable couples from all over the country have benefitted from his marital intervention and his writing. He has written three books, including the bestselling The 24x7 Marriage and The Fifty- Marriage, these two as part of a series called The New Indian Marriage . 3 s a Crowd, the third in this series, deals with infidelity and how to survive it. He also writes a column for The Hindu called The Shrinking Universe and is featured in other national and regional publications too. He regularly conducts workshops for couples and corporates on relationship management. He draws inspiration for his work from Usha, his wife, and their twenty-two-year-old marriage.
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